There was one moment in time that I remember vividly. My life changed in an instant. I had been in a few car accidents before, but those impacts were nothing compared to when my ex blindsided me. It was just a normal day. I was sitting on the bed. He was in the office. As he walked, I saw something fall out of his pocket. It looked like a paper. It fell to the ground in slow motion. Usually, I would tell him he dropped something. Not this time. My inner voice told me to go pick it up. I listened and saw my greatest fear printed on a 3" x 4" paper.
As I got closer I saw an ultrasound. I was pregnant at the time, but it wasn't mine. It had his ex-girlfriend's name on it and she was due 3 months before me. My heart formed a million cracks. I'm sure it would have broken apart if it hadn't been for the life I was carrying. In that moment I knew that the child inside of me and I were on our own. He wasn't the man I thought he was.
Somehow I managed not to flip out. I wanted answers first and then I'd deal with the feelings later. I wanted to know when he planned on telling me about the baby. Each time he answered, one lie after another followed. I was stunned, devastated, and scared to death. Cheating was bad enough, but unprotected sex with your ex was reprehensible. He clearly didn't value his own life, much less mine. The truth was a completely foreign concept to him. I didn't understand how he could do this and keep it a secret.
That was indeed the day my heart cracked. More importantly, it was the day that I began to surrender my life plan and put my 100% trust in God. In the end, my purpose pushed through all the tears and pain. I am here to teach others what this life-altering lesson taught me. There is happiness to be had on the other side of trauma.
As I got closer I saw an ultrasound. I was pregnant at the time, but it wasn't mine. It had his ex-girlfriend's name on it and she was due 3 months before me. My heart formed a million cracks. I'm sure it would have broken apart if it hadn't been for the life I was carrying. In that moment I knew that the child inside of me and I were on our own. He wasn't the man I thought he was.
Somehow I managed not to flip out. I wanted answers first and then I'd deal with the feelings later. I wanted to know when he planned on telling me about the baby. Each time he answered, one lie after another followed. I was stunned, devastated, and scared to death. Cheating was bad enough, but unprotected sex with your ex was reprehensible. He clearly didn't value his own life, much less mine. The truth was a completely foreign concept to him. I didn't understand how he could do this and keep it a secret.
That was indeed the day my heart cracked. More importantly, it was the day that I began to surrender my life plan and put my 100% trust in God. In the end, my purpose pushed through all the tears and pain. I am here to teach others what this life-altering lesson taught me. There is happiness to be had on the other side of trauma.
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Sarah Aderson, Leg-a-SHE Strategist and author of the forthcoming book The Single Mom Bliss Blueprint: 7 Steps to Activate the Superpower in Your Heart, empowers single moms to live without limits and create the life they desire. She's also the host and founder of the Mom-In-Chief Lounge...a Free weekly empowerment session for busy single moms.
Learn more about Sarah's work at www.expandyourheart.org
Get Free weekly training from renowned experts at www.mominchieflounge.com
Sarah Aderson, Leg-a-SHE Strategist and author of the forthcoming book The Single Mom Bliss Blueprint: 7 Steps to Activate the Superpower in Your Heart, empowers single moms to live without limits and create the life they desire. She's also the host and founder of the Mom-In-Chief Lounge...a Free weekly empowerment session for busy single moms.
Learn more about Sarah's work at www.expandyourheart.org
Get Free weekly training from renowned experts at www.mominchieflounge.com
