It's so easy to get sucked into the work-eat-sleep cycle. The days and weeks seem to all blend together. Before you know it, it's a new year. You look back and wonder what happened. Nothing happened. Why? Because of you. Not your boss, your parents, your kids, or your significant other. You are the reason nothing happened. You alone are responsible for creating the life you want. If you choose not to accept this responsibility, then it appears as if life is happening to you. That's an illusion. Right here, right now - promise yourself that you will take an active role in your life.
Before you begin creating, you first need to release some old stuff. Think of it this way: Your life is a canvas. You are the paintbrush. Your desires are the paint. Your past is the cloudy water. Every time you dip your brush into that dirty water and then into your paint, you dampen your present. The past and the present cannot coexist. Here are 3 ways to clean up the debris from your past:
Ask for Help (and be willing to receive it)
Often, we suffer in silence because we think it's brave or noble. Well, it's neither. It's time to take off the SuperWoman cape. Hang it up once and for all. Asking for help has nothing to do with your self-worth, your intelligence, or parenting skills. True strength comes from asking others for help when you need it.
You must be willing to receive the help. You can't have an attitude or be ungrateful. Also, don't burden yourself by feeling indebted to the person helping you. Now, if you agreed to re-pay them in some fashion, then please fulfill your commitment. I'm talking about labeling yourself as a bad person because you received help. The person giving is no better than the person receiving. You are equal. You've been the giver before and you will again.
You are surrounded by people that are ready, willing, and able to help you - friends, family, the Universe, coaches, mentors, etc. They cannot help you, unless you ask.
Forgive
You have a mental filing system of everyone that has ever done you wrong, treated you badly, owes you money, or looked at you wrong. You still beat yourself up about mistakes you made ten years ago. Holding onto all of that isn't serving you. It's limiting your potential, not anyone else's. Those people have long forgotten about the incident.
Forgiveness is a process. It takes awhile. Some offenses take longer than others. You will have to forgive a person over and over again. If you think of that person and you still feel upset, then you haven't forgiven them. It's not until you think of that person and can sincerely wish them well, that forgiveness happens.
Be sure to Include yourself on the list of people to forgive. You're human. You only have the information made available to you. You can't read minds and you cannot predict the future. Every experience is a lesson. The so-called mistakes taught you the most important lessons about your character.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others!
When has comparing yourself with someone else made you feel good, deep down inside? I'm going to take a guess and say never. We typically choose someone 15 steps ahead of us to compare ourselves with. Not exactly apples to apples. Everyone has a unique journey. Change happens behind closed doors. You are seeing the byproduct of their development. Stop comparing yourself to others - it's not doing you any good.
If you have a burning desire to compare yourself, then compare where you are to where you used to be. Look at the progress you've made. Look at how many times you persevered. You are a champion!
Are you ready to paint on the canvas of life with a clean brush? How will your life change once you release all of the old emotional stuff? Leave a comment and I'll join the discussion.
Before you begin creating, you first need to release some old stuff. Think of it this way: Your life is a canvas. You are the paintbrush. Your desires are the paint. Your past is the cloudy water. Every time you dip your brush into that dirty water and then into your paint, you dampen your present. The past and the present cannot coexist. Here are 3 ways to clean up the debris from your past:
Ask for Help (and be willing to receive it)
Often, we suffer in silence because we think it's brave or noble. Well, it's neither. It's time to take off the SuperWoman cape. Hang it up once and for all. Asking for help has nothing to do with your self-worth, your intelligence, or parenting skills. True strength comes from asking others for help when you need it.
You must be willing to receive the help. You can't have an attitude or be ungrateful. Also, don't burden yourself by feeling indebted to the person helping you. Now, if you agreed to re-pay them in some fashion, then please fulfill your commitment. I'm talking about labeling yourself as a bad person because you received help. The person giving is no better than the person receiving. You are equal. You've been the giver before and you will again.
You are surrounded by people that are ready, willing, and able to help you - friends, family, the Universe, coaches, mentors, etc. They cannot help you, unless you ask.
Forgive
You have a mental filing system of everyone that has ever done you wrong, treated you badly, owes you money, or looked at you wrong. You still beat yourself up about mistakes you made ten years ago. Holding onto all of that isn't serving you. It's limiting your potential, not anyone else's. Those people have long forgotten about the incident.
Forgiveness is a process. It takes awhile. Some offenses take longer than others. You will have to forgive a person over and over again. If you think of that person and you still feel upset, then you haven't forgiven them. It's not until you think of that person and can sincerely wish them well, that forgiveness happens.
Be sure to Include yourself on the list of people to forgive. You're human. You only have the information made available to you. You can't read minds and you cannot predict the future. Every experience is a lesson. The so-called mistakes taught you the most important lessons about your character.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others!
When has comparing yourself with someone else made you feel good, deep down inside? I'm going to take a guess and say never. We typically choose someone 15 steps ahead of us to compare ourselves with. Not exactly apples to apples. Everyone has a unique journey. Change happens behind closed doors. You are seeing the byproduct of their development. Stop comparing yourself to others - it's not doing you any good.
If you have a burning desire to compare yourself, then compare where you are to where you used to be. Look at the progress you've made. Look at how many times you persevered. You are a champion!
Are you ready to paint on the canvas of life with a clean brush? How will your life change once you release all of the old emotional stuff? Leave a comment and I'll join the discussion.
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Sarah Aderson, speaker, Leg-a-SHE Strategist, and author of the forthcoming book The Single Mompreneur Bliss Blueprint: 7 Steps to Activate the Superpower in Your Heart, empowers women entrepreneurs to charge what they're worth so they can leave a legacy not only for their family, but the world. Sarah transforms your business into an empire. She's also the host and founder of the Mom-In-Chief Lounge...a Free weekly empowerment session for busy single moms.
Learn more about Sarah's work at www.expandyourheart.org
Get Free weekly training from renowned experts at www.mominchieflounge.com
Sarah Aderson, speaker, Leg-a-SHE Strategist, and author of the forthcoming book The Single Mompreneur Bliss Blueprint: 7 Steps to Activate the Superpower in Your Heart, empowers women entrepreneurs to charge what they're worth so they can leave a legacy not only for their family, but the world. Sarah transforms your business into an empire. She's also the host and founder of the Mom-In-Chief Lounge...a Free weekly empowerment session for busy single moms.
Learn more about Sarah's work at www.expandyourheart.org
Get Free weekly training from renowned experts at www.mominchieflounge.com
