Single motherhood is a misnomer. I know some people in society like to label me as a single mom, so they feel better about themselves. Some people say "Solo Parent" or "Divorced with Kids". The labels mean nothing, unless you let them. A mom is a mom.
If I have to choose a box to check, then I prefer the term Mom-In-Chief. Each and every decision begins and ends with me. Nonetheless, I am anything but alone. I am the parent that's with my son every day and makes sure his needs and wants are addressed. However, there's no way in the world I could raise my son on my own. I would feel hopeless and dejected.
My journey as a single mom has truly been a spiritual journey. My relationship with the Source is closer and deeper than ever. I run every decision and issue by the Source. I pray for guidance regularly. I invite the Source into my day-to-day activities. Meditation has proven an invaluable practice for me. It's my time to be quiet and listen for direction.
Instead of stressing over everything my ex isn't doing or contributing, I trust that there is a higher power working it all together for my good. I am the mother my son is supposed to have. All of our needs will always be taken care of. We are fully loved and supported by the Universe.
It took me some time to get to this place of peace and understanding. It truly has been a journey. I have a classic Type A personality. I have a plan, I have a back-up plan, and I have a back-up for my back-up plan. My best friend will tell you that my brain never sleeps. She says it's always downloading or uploading a million ideas and plans. She affectionately calls me "Big Brain".
Although, I had a conversation with my ex about going off birth control and having a baby, I NEVER planned to be a Mom-In-Chief. I was scared out of my mind. Despite my fear, I knew that I couldn't be one of many since he was unwilling to be monogamous. I questioned God and my own judgement, initially. I didn't understand why he wanted me to experience such heartache. I was pissed at myself for choosing this man to have a child with. I thought I was a better judge of character.
After the pissed off phase, I had to put on my stilettos and move forward. I had to trust that God wouldn't give me anything I couldn't handle. I made the best decisions I could at the time, with the information available to me. My heart was cracked, ego was bruised, and my confidence was low, but I surrendered to God. He had my complete attention. I needed him like I never needed him before. When my ex didn't contact our son for over a month - God was there. When my ex chose not to provide for our son financially or emotionally - God was there. When the child support order wasn't enforced - God was there. God is my Source. He got me through it all and I came out stronger.
Single motherhood is a spiritual journey. Heck, motherhood is a spiritual journey. Your ex, your job, child support, your bank accounts, etc. - are not your source. In order to create the life I wanted deep down in my heart, I had to strengthen my relationship with the Source.
I know you feel lonely sometimes. I know it's not the way you wanted things to work out. I know you are hurting. I know you think things would be easier if you were married. I know you are doing your best. You are not alone. We are not alone. There's a higher power waiting for an invitation. He wants you to see yourself the way he sees you. You are brilliant, beautiful, talented, and divine.
God wants to co-parent with you. If you ask for guidance, it will come. When it does, be sure to take inspired action.
If I have to choose a box to check, then I prefer the term Mom-In-Chief. Each and every decision begins and ends with me. Nonetheless, I am anything but alone. I am the parent that's with my son every day and makes sure his needs and wants are addressed. However, there's no way in the world I could raise my son on my own. I would feel hopeless and dejected.
My journey as a single mom has truly been a spiritual journey. My relationship with the Source is closer and deeper than ever. I run every decision and issue by the Source. I pray for guidance regularly. I invite the Source into my day-to-day activities. Meditation has proven an invaluable practice for me. It's my time to be quiet and listen for direction.
Instead of stressing over everything my ex isn't doing or contributing, I trust that there is a higher power working it all together for my good. I am the mother my son is supposed to have. All of our needs will always be taken care of. We are fully loved and supported by the Universe.
It took me some time to get to this place of peace and understanding. It truly has been a journey. I have a classic Type A personality. I have a plan, I have a back-up plan, and I have a back-up for my back-up plan. My best friend will tell you that my brain never sleeps. She says it's always downloading or uploading a million ideas and plans. She affectionately calls me "Big Brain".
Although, I had a conversation with my ex about going off birth control and having a baby, I NEVER planned to be a Mom-In-Chief. I was scared out of my mind. Despite my fear, I knew that I couldn't be one of many since he was unwilling to be monogamous. I questioned God and my own judgement, initially. I didn't understand why he wanted me to experience such heartache. I was pissed at myself for choosing this man to have a child with. I thought I was a better judge of character.
After the pissed off phase, I had to put on my stilettos and move forward. I had to trust that God wouldn't give me anything I couldn't handle. I made the best decisions I could at the time, with the information available to me. My heart was cracked, ego was bruised, and my confidence was low, but I surrendered to God. He had my complete attention. I needed him like I never needed him before. When my ex didn't contact our son for over a month - God was there. When my ex chose not to provide for our son financially or emotionally - God was there. When the child support order wasn't enforced - God was there. God is my Source. He got me through it all and I came out stronger.
Single motherhood is a spiritual journey. Heck, motherhood is a spiritual journey. Your ex, your job, child support, your bank accounts, etc. - are not your source. In order to create the life I wanted deep down in my heart, I had to strengthen my relationship with the Source.
I know you feel lonely sometimes. I know it's not the way you wanted things to work out. I know you are hurting. I know you think things would be easier if you were married. I know you are doing your best. You are not alone. We are not alone. There's a higher power waiting for an invitation. He wants you to see yourself the way he sees you. You are brilliant, beautiful, talented, and divine.
God wants to co-parent with you. If you ask for guidance, it will come. When it does, be sure to take inspired action.
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Sarah Aderson, speaker, Leg-a-SHE Strategist, and author of the forthcoming book The Single Mompreneur Bliss Blueprint: 7 Steps to Activate the Superpower in Your Heart, empowers women entrepreneurs to charge what they're worth so they can leave a legacy not only for their family, but the world. Sarah transforms your business into an empire. She's also the host and founder of the Mom-In-Chief Lounge...a Free weekly empowerment session for busy single moms.
Learn more about Sarah's work at www.expandyourheart.org
Get Free weekly training from renowned experts at www.mominchieflounge.com
Sarah Aderson, speaker, Leg-a-SHE Strategist, and author of the forthcoming book The Single Mompreneur Bliss Blueprint: 7 Steps to Activate the Superpower in Your Heart, empowers women entrepreneurs to charge what they're worth so they can leave a legacy not only for their family, but the world. Sarah transforms your business into an empire. She's also the host and founder of the Mom-In-Chief Lounge...a Free weekly empowerment session for busy single moms.
Learn more about Sarah's work at www.expandyourheart.org
Get Free weekly training from renowned experts at www.mominchieflounge.com
